Making a child’s Christmas a miracle.

We at Blog At Your Own Risk would like to see if we can make a child’s Christmas a miracle this year. 

Please message a nominee of someone you may know who is struggling to make ends meet but is doing the best they can. We would like to try and raise some money to put together their child’s wish list and place it under their tree for Christmas. 

Please help make this possible. Share your or someone you knows story. 

Forgotten victims

With all the tragedy that is happening in the low country, people have seemed to forgotten about the victims of these tragedies in order to promote their own agendas. Before these people were even laid to rest people were already blaming the confederate flag and wanting its removal because obviously according to these people if the flag was not there these tragedies would not have happened. Now they have accomplished that they are going after a piece of art, and wanting it sandblasted off. My only question is what is next the American flag? The White House? Maybe we should just set fire to the entire country and burn it all to the ground and start over. 

It’s not about you or your agendas. Whether a flag flies or falls you are still going to have morons out there doing stupid stuff. It’s time to stop dividing ourselves and start embracing each other. “Together we stand divided we fall”. There is only one race out there that means anything to everyone, it’s dominant over all other races and no matter what you do you can NOT divide it and that race is the human race. We are all a part of it no matter what color or ethnicity you are. 

Folly Beach vs IOP

I’ve spent some time at both Folly Beach and IOP each has their ups and downs. Over all I prefer IOP. 

IOP is a bit more expensive to go to than Folly due to parking costs and the restaurants cost a little more to eat at. IOP’s beach is cleaner and easier to allow your children to play at. 

Folly don’t get as much tourist activity as IOP which allows more room to find a good spot during the busy hours. 

More than anything my first week in SC I went to Folly, found a parking spot backed into it and went and walked on the beach checking out the scenery. When I came back I had a nice ticket on my window for parking facing the wrong direction to welcome me to SC. Not exactly sure the reasoning behind that particular law, seems to me pulling out into traffic is a bit safer than backing out. My only explanation was they make the laws as they go down there to increase their income. 

So I only go to Folly now kicking and screaming. It’s usually due to getting invited to a group event out there because it’s easier to find parking. 

Let me know what you all think. What is your preference ?

Chivalry has been murdered!

What has happened to society today? From as early as I can remember growing up, men were supposed to open doors for women whether you were with them or not, pull out chairs for your dates, and pay for their dinner. 

Instead this society has skipped dating all together and have gone straight from “getting those digits” to hooking up for a one night stand. Do you want to know how to turn a first date into a successful marriage? I can promise you if you asked 100 people who have been married for 20 + years how they met and what made it last the answer will NOT be it developed over a one night stand. Those marriages are normally annulled after both parties are sober. 

What is wrong with taking a girl out to a fancy restaurant, opening the door, pulling out her chair, paying for her meal and walking her to her door at the end of the evening, and then go home. If she invites you in she invites you in. It should not be expected and even if she does invite you in there shouldn’t be any expectations other than maybe a cup of coffee. 

I honestly think this is one of the many reasons that there are too many baby daddies and not many fathers out there. Time for the men to grow up and start pretending like they like women and stop using them like one of their belongings and dispose of them when they are through. 

People against people helping others.

For the last two weeks I have been adding people as friends to my Facebook page and inviting them to like this page. Since then I have added over 700 new friends and have actually been in talk with a couple and made friends on a personal level. While I agree I have not added them to make new friends, but to get them involved with this page, not to just get our blog out there but to get what we are doing as a blog out there. 

We (Blog At Your Own Risk) have decided to try and do something very special for the Low Country and stage a war against homeless families. (You can read the specifics under the helping the homeless blog below. 

Since I have started this I have had a lot of positive feedback and only 3 people that have voiced some what of a complaint. I’m sure there are others who voiced theirs to Facebook and maybe some to just themselves and their families but the 3 that voiced their complaints, I couldn’t help but notice, we’re all from Virginia. One from Roanoke, one from Leesburg and the other I blocked because he or she got way to vulgar so I can’t look back to see what city. 

I guess I just don’t understand why you would stand against someone who is trying to do good things. Is it because it doesn’t benefit you? Is it because you just don’t believe in charity? I don’t know the reasoning behind it all I can do is guess or assume, so I am leaving it to any followers to help me out here. Why take a stand against people doing something good? Why does it seem like Virginia has more of this than anyone else? 

Fighting

I have been seeing a increase in videos of young men and women fighting on Facebook recently. I’m not sure exactly what is going on. When I was growing up there were fights here and there, but these days it’s happening like every day. These children are finding the stupidest things to fight about. 

What happened to the days where if you got in trouble at school you got in trouble at home. I know there would have been a good beating in the living room of my house if I was to ever get in a fight at school. I was expected to go to school pay attention come home do my homework and if I got anything lower than a C my dad would be all over my behind. 

I just finished watching a video where in the middle of class a teenage boy and teenage girl get in each other’s face and talk back n forth for a few minutes and in the background you can see the teacher just sitting there not saying anything. Things get out of control the girl hits the boy and the boy punches back and knocks her down. 

All I could think is wow. These children today are not learning anything about respect. No one is teaching them manners not at home not at school. I was raised way different than what I’ve seen this era. You never put your hands on a woman. If I’d ever put my hands on a woman my dad would have probably took a couple days off work just to sit at home and beat the snot out of me. 

What does fighting really solve? Does it prove 1 is tougher than the other? I’ve seen little guys knock out big guys just because the got a lucky punch in. So how is the little guy proven tougher? He is not, anyone can win a fight, just a matter of getting the lucky punch. 

We as parents need to take control of this. We need to teach our children respect, humility, and honor. They need to be more obedient to their elders, respect women, and education is important. 

If we just sit to the side and say there’s nothing you can do then things are only going to get worse. Yes the laws have changed and it makes it harder to discipline these days. Take away their phones, take away their games, take away their television and if that don’t work take away their freedom. Make them come home from school do their homework eat dinner and then sit in their room and read a book. Give them your own book report. Things need to change. Things really need to change. 

The good and bad of welfare

Welfare started in 1935 to help people who had lost their jobs and homes during the Great Depression after the stock market collapsed in 1929. 

Over the years welfare has gone from helping people while they are unemployed to get back on their feet to being the feet people stand on. 

It has been people’s opinions that welfare should be decreased to be a subsidiary income instead of being able to support a family of 4 when the family is only mother and daughter. They say that a good percentage of people would rather sit at home and collect the money as opposed to getting out in the working force. 

Others say that welfare should be more strict as in who gets welfare. That they should implement measures such as drug screening. They feel that some people are using welfare to get what they need so they can spend their money on drugs alcohol and partying. 

In either opinion, which is not just from a single person ( more like a large group) welfare is not being used in the manner that it was created. It started as a charity and has become a means to live on. 

My personal experience with welfare was growing up, my mother was a stay at home mom never had a job dad took care of all the bills. Then when something happened and my parents got a divorce my mom was left homeless with 2 children to support. So while she looked for a job she did what she had to do to put a roof over our heads and food in our stomachs. This included welfare, but it was not enough that she could live off of she still needed to get a job in order to get back on her feet. These days I see people driving nice cars and live in nice homes who are on welfare.

They other day I watched a lady pull up to the food lion in a pretty new BMW convertible, park in the handicapped parking and go inside. I thought nothing of it at that point until later I see her in front of me at the checkout lane buying a cart full of snacks, she had Doritos and snack cakes and soda, not just a small amount her bill came to like $50 or $60 of nothing but snacks and pay with an EBT card. This would not normally have caught my eye but what caught my eye was she got into a bit of a argument with the cashier when the cashier told her she had to pay cash for the bud light. 

The lady was obvious on a snack run for some sort of party but using welfare to do so? 

Tell me what you think, comment below. Thanks for reading

Living in Charleston

   I love living in Charleston, SC! There is no better place to live. Beautiful views, beautiful people, Southern cooking. I can’t imagine a better place to live. I’ve been north I’ve been west nothing like Charleston. 
I especially enjoy the no snow climate with the not too dry air like you in hale a mouthful of sand with every breath, but not so humid that you never get thirsty without drinking.

I met my wife here in Charleston and I wouldn’t trade her nor my two daughters for anything. 

So many things to do, I don’t if I’ll ever get to do all of them. From a movie theatre that serves you food and drinks while you watch the movie to romantic walks on the beach, no matter what you like I’m sure you can find it in Charleston. 

Things needed to help

There are more things that we need other than donations for this charity. We here at Blog At Your Own Risk are putting together a car show to take place in August or September so we are going to need sponsors, trophies, dash plaques, judges amongst a long list of things we will need to make this successful. Please contact us at Blogatyourownrisk@mail.com or commenting to this post.

Helping the homeless

One of the things I have always enjoyed doing is helping people. Even back when I was a teenager I remember a time I had just done a bunch of chores for my grandma and she gave me $20, I was so happy I couldn’t wait to spend it. I jumped on my bike and took off toward the store. 

The path that I always took to the store brought you right behind it, you crossed a bridge and go around front and you were there. 

This particular day, I just got to the other side of the bridge and was about to head for the front door and something caught my eye. I looked and there was this guy wearing a bunch of old rags and he was climbing out of the dumpster. To this day almost 30 years ago I can still remember the smile on his face when I handed him that $20 bill. Not only did it make him happy I felt joy in my heart as well. 

So I have always wanted to do something for the homeless if I ever could, and now is that time. I am putting together a fundraiser to raise money to take one family with children off the streets. I am gonna dedicate as much time as I can afford to raise enough to put a family into an extended stay for 2 months, get them 2 months worth of food, get them some clothes, and hopefully get them a job and back on their feet. So if you can please donate to this charity, I promise you that 100% of the money raised will go toward this goal of mine.

If I succeed at getting this one family off the street and have money left over, I will save it for the next family next year. I hope to be able to take 1 family off the streets every year. If I can do more I will but I need your help every penny counts please donate what you can and if you can’t please share this with all your family and friends.

If you would like to donate your time please let me know there is plenty to do.

http://de.gofund.me/pai8o0
That is the go fund me page I created pass it along please!